Grief and Loss

While most commonly associated with the loss of a loved one, grief can also be the result of the loss of a relationship, job, or sense of normalcy.  The Stages of Grief for any type of loss can be the same but experienced in different ways for different people. There are no set time periods for grief as each experience is highly personal.


The most commonly known Stages of Grief are:


  • Denial: This is a normal, initial reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. Denial can serve as a defense mechanism to buffer the immediate shock of the loss.

  • Anger: As the numbing effects of the denial stage of grief begin to wear off, the pain of loss starts to firmly take hold as we search for blame, feel intense guilt, and possibly lash out.

  • Bargaining: Commonly referred to as the "what if" stage of grief. It provides temporary escape from pain, provides hope, and gives a person time to adjust to the reality of the situation.

  • Depression: This type of depression is not a sign of mental illness; it is the appropriate response to a great loss. Intense sadness, decreased sleep, reduced appetite, and loss of motivation are common during this stage.

  • Acceptance: This does NOT mean that the person is okay with the loss only that they have come to terms with the loss and the fact that nothing can change that.



Allowing yourself to grieve is an important step in getting through the process. Contact me for a 20-minute, low-cost consultation for ways I can assist you with this process.